Divorce laws

[Kimbers]

It sounds like she is scraping the bottom of the barrel to regain some control or at least revenge. But surely this constitutes a breach of her conditions?

It's about time the courts took this seriously and ordered her incarceration either in a hospital or secure facility. The last thing anyone wants mate is for you to be hurt as her "last resort" and for you to be a "lesson to learn" like we see so much.

[Barrykearley]

Drove past the farm on the way home tonight. She’s been blocking the drive with her two vehicles. Tonight the Mini Cooper was there - missing half its front bumper so she’s twatted another car by the looks.

still no reply from our marvellous police farce…..

[Barrykearley]

19 hours ago, Kimbers said:

But surely this constitutes a breach of her conditions?

Yes Kimbers the police believe it is. She is actually on two separate bail things for two separate offences. The terms on both are the same. 
 

The fact she is essentially attempting to cut off our internet and further control is what I really don’t like. She knows I have a great working relationship with this company and knows I have a few friends within the business. So she absolutely is aware of the implications of her phonecall. The subtlety of her deviousness knows no bounds. 

[Kimbers]

They normally state "No contact directly or indirectly or 3rd party" which this is classified as a 3rd party (this normally avoids them asking someone else to contact you to harass you).

What is the situation with the farm? Can she not be evicted/moved out etc? Surely she isn't paying any bills?

[Barrykearley]

Getting anything sorted via the family court is a joke frankly. She has rights obviously and it seems more than the kids and I. This really is the problem dealing with offenders and drink and drugs.

I put in court paperwork about 6 weeks ago and have heard nothing. The system is broken. I’ll just leave it to rumble on.

[C8RKH]

Yes, it's funny how equality does not seem to be factored into family courts, or indeed the courts in general, when women are the perps.

[Barrykearley]

The courts are worse than the police - and they have been awful.

im sure it’ll sort itself out - I’ll just leave the lot of them to it and crack on. We have another hen shed to wire starting in about 10 days time.

[Barrykearley]

Aaand today 1645 - off went the internet to the barn. Along with another 15 odd neighbours.

Engineers attended. Power to their cabinet has been turned off despite both her cars being there no answer could be got from knocking the doors.

ive rung the police.

[C8RKH]

Have they responded yet? The Police that is.

[Barrykearley]

Police incident number raised. Who knows what and when this will get sorted.

It is clear abuse and I’ve had a guts full of it

[Barrykearley]

Police have been out and restored power at the farmhouse after entering on welfare grounds.

[C8RKH]

Hopefully they gave her a stern talking to too, and left her in no doubt her behaviour was not acceptable nor would be tolerated?  We can but live in hope.

[Barrykearley]

I’ve no idea @C8RKH frankly what they discussed with her I’m not in one bit interested in. All I am bothered about is my kids being able to carry on with normal life without intrusive actions of someone whom clearly needs help. 
 

The officer did disclose some interesting stuff that’s giving me some small amounts of hope.

[Barrykearley]

Today was mow the grass day. Just needed a mower. I used to have two nice mowers before - which had to be sold as part of the divorce. Her solicitors were a fucking nightmare over these - since they looked at the values placed on them and were desperate to get their hands on the cash.

off to auction they went. Both as non runners since they hadn’t been used in a while. I bought them both back from the auction for a fraction of the listed price back in November- happy days.

Popped down to my mates farm and collected tractor topper one. Got her running within 5 minutes but the flail was seized. Some oil - a big hammer and a pair of Stilsons and that freed it all up. Grass now cut 🥳🥳🥳 - it was somewhat annoying to be 2 minutes into mowing and low and behold I am being watched and photographed mowing….. ffs. 
 

still grass looks good - happy days

 

[Kimbers]

Whats she gonna do? report you for "making the grass look nice?" when she wanted to keep it looking shit?

 

[Barrykearley]

She’s probably pissed @Kimbers - that tractor and mower I payed £5400 for a while ago - bought it back for £800 as it didn’t run and only had to pay half of that 😂

this whole sorry chapter needs bringing to a close. The courts were payed the fee last week to haul it back in front of the judge. I’m not holding out much hope tbh - I’ve been kept prisoner by her for 26 months now and it needs to conclude. 
 

in other news Danny and I now have two big hen shed contracts to complete before Xmas - life is indeed epic 

 

[C8RKH]

On 14/04/2024 at 17:49, Barrykearley said:

low and behold I am being watched and photographed mowing….. ffs. 
 

Should have had a can of XXXX in your hand a smile!

[Barrykearley]

Lo and behold today the council have been in touch regarding my illegal caravan site….. you can only imagine where that report came from.

Now they have raised issues with the barn being rented as a holiday let alongside it being used as a commercial car sales site. Now - I do wonder where they could possibly have got all that from. They had a curt and blunt response and I’ve reported the matter to the police. This is blatant malicious reporting by someone who’s on police bail to leave me the fuck alone.

 

[Barrykearley]

Oh ffs. This really does need to stop and stop now.

I’ve been chatting and getting to know someone for a couple of weeks. She followed me on one of the social media channels. Last night she asked me my ex wife’s name - there’s zero chance she knows her and we have never spoken about her before. I thought it strange and she felt awkward asking - but I’ll answer anything and be fully open and honest.

well - would you believe it but my ex wife has sent her a bloody friend request on Facebook…… Seriously WTAF…… again police report added. 

 

[C8RKH]

She's been given so many chances, when does the law actually get teeth?

Again, if this was man on woman you'd be locked up in serious shit for less than this.

I think a complaint to the chief Commissioner and The CPS is surely in order - or whomever we are supposed to hold accountable these days.

Surely there's enough to at least get her sectioned here?

[oneshot]

Maybe try contacting the police & crime commissioner for the area? So are up for election in May

[Kimbers]

This surely comes under different laws now? You should really be thinking along these lines. "harassment (putting people in fear of violence) or stalking (involving fear of violence or serious alarm or distress): the maximum sentence is 10 years' custody."

Use those words in every contact from now on and make sure they are 100% aware you are in fear of violence and serious harm, Alarm and distress. 

[eeyoreish]

It's amazing the havoc someone thinks they can wreak on your life if they know you, your business and have the time and motivation to stir up trouble for you.

Hopefully the local council have better things to do than add to your problems. Especially if it's adding to or risks inducing any undue stress and 'mental health' issues for you, then they should be backing off and seeing any malicious reports for what they are.

[C8RKH]

There is no "thinks" about it @eeyoreish as this IS real and happening.

Good point re the stress and mental health, I'd be hitting Council hard with that and asking how they manage "vulnerable" groups like you and your kids to avoid any future confusion, stress and mental harm for you all.

 

[Barrykearley]

So the police spoke to me this morning. Just a normal officer and I’ve stressed the fact I would like to speak to a specialist domestic abuse officer.
 

Anyway - same old pishe. The officer looked at the system - can see lots of incidents along with at least 17 DA related incidens that have been crimed.

Off the nice Mr Policeman is going to visit the Ex and provide her with words of advice…… I am sick and tired of this bullshit tbh. This simply cannot be allowed to continue. If it is - well how fucking long for is the question?